Equilibrium !

Some of you would have seen this Christian Bale starer, so-called action movie. To others, who haven't seen it, here is a gist. The movie tells how controlling emotions alone can't keep men peaceful. Well, the movie was right. Controlling your emotions will never keep you in peace. At least not if you wanna live(may be you can Rest In Peace). Because, they are no root cause. They age just reactions to events(failures or successes). Some actions turn out to be events and they lead to emotions.

Man is a social animal, ain't he? He needs to interact with others to live on this planet. He depends on some one for something, at least something little. He expects something from others. Expectations are the real culprits. A threat to mankind.

Now, tell me, why you choose to have friends? To spend leisure time, to go to a movie, to eat, t chat, to be helpful when needed, to take care and so on. Why do you need a spouse? To have some warmth, to have some sex and of course kids, to have company when you get old. Why do you believe in God? Simply, so that he can answer your prayers, and shower his blessing upon you and to take you to heaven, when you are done here.

Simply Huge expectations. We expect our parents to love us even if we were fools. We expect our friend always be there when we need anytime, anywhere. We expect the laundry worker to turn torn and stinking clothes into brand new ones. We expect the city bus to empty when we reach the bus stop. We expect a hell lot of things like this. Not only from living things, but from Non-living and Non-existent things as well. Some one needs to put some brains into our skulls.

And most of our expectations fail. Simply because they are not under our control. Failures bring something along with them.

Negative emotions. Irritation, Disgust, Anger, Frustration, shame, hatred, contempt, fear, embarrassment, madness. You get irritated on the laundry man when you find a small dirt in your clothes. You get disgusted when your friend forgot to respond to your call. You get angered when your spouse couldn't make it to the lunch. You feel frustrated when your parents didn't help you with your love. You hate men when they pray to a different invisible man to whom you aren't praying. You expect things from others and when they are not met, you emote negatively and let your negative energy take control of you. You panic and lose your minds. You no more feel peaceful and don't let others to feel so.

Well the, how to live peaceful? Throw away all your expectations? The only way you can do that is by settling in Mars, where you can see no one. Lose all emotions? You rather be ready to bury yourself. Expectations and emotions are what made men civilised. You wanna destroy one of them? You need to either destroy civilizations or yourself first. That is not the way.

So do expect, but only what is reasonable. Expect only things that will not hurt you or any others, whatever way the outcome is. Emote positively. Negative energy does nothing useful. Take life light. Understand that, no one wanted to fail your expectations, they just failed because it was not in control of either of you. Do unto others, whatever you want them to do to you. Explain to others, why their expectations failed. Learn why yours failed. This will keep you peaceful. This will keep you in equilibrium !